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Many sicknesses, diseases and evils in this world, in my humble opinion, could be resolved by simply elevating an individual’s self-esteem. Improving one’s self-esteem could very well be the key to a happy, healthy and successful life.
Most people’s feelings and thoughts about themselves fluctuate based on their daily experiences. The grade you get on an exam, how your friends and colleagues treat you, ups and downs in a romantic relationship- all can have a temporary impact on your well being.
Your own self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” associated with situational changes. For people with good basic self-esteem, normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves, but only to a limited extent.
In contrast, for people with poor basic self-esteem, these “ups and downs” may make all the difference in the world. People with poor self-esteem often rely on how they are doing in the present to determine how they feel about themselves. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. Even then, the good feeling (from a good grade, etc.) can be temporary.
It is my belief, that layered beneath unhealthy behaviour is low self-esteem. It is low self-esteem that drives people to partake in risky or unhealthy behaviour, resulting in many known poor outcomes that are evidenced by little value for themselves or their health. The inability to value your self is normally punctuated with feelings of “I’m not worth it” or “I don’t deserve to be like or loved” or “I’m just a failure who would listen to me” This is the hallmark of low self-esteem.
Healthy self-esteem is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately (know ourselves) and still be able to accept and value ourselves unconditionally. This means being able to realistically acknowledge our strengths and limitations (which is part of being human) and at the same time accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.
Our self-esteem develops and evolves throughout our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people and activities.
Experiences during our childhood play a particularly large role in the shaping of our basic self-esteem. When we were growing up, our successes (and failures) and how we were treated by the members of our immediate family, by our teachers, coaches, religious authorities, and by our peers, all contributed to the creation of our basic self-esteem.
An adult who has healthy self-esteem was given this gift in childhood.
Trust me you will be glad you started, nothing is more uplifting than a brisk 20 minute walk in the country side. You’ll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier
Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a bush fire from inside and out.
When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self-esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative.
I live in sunny South Africa. I create websites, meditate, study and listen to lots of music, while I write articles for my blog. I help people uncover their potential and guide them into a fulfilling life. I am a certified NLP Practitioner, and soon to be Master Practitioner. My goal is to become a certified NLP Trainer, so I can teach others about the power of change through NLP.